How Your Social Media Habits May Be Impacting Your Kids — Even When You’re Offline
At Orleans Family Health Clinic, we know that modern parenting often involves navigating a digital world. Many parents try their best to limit screen time around their children, but a growing body of research now suggests that our digital habits — especially our use of social media — may affect our children in more subtle and lasting ways than we realize.
A new study presented at the Digital Media and Developing Minds International Scientific Congress has highlighted a concerning pattern: mothers who spend more time on social media tend to talk significantly less to their children, even during device-free playtime. On average, moms who used social media for about 169 minutes per day spoke 29% less to their children than those who only used it for 21 minutes per day.
This effect isn’t about screen time in the moment. It’s about how deeply our attention is affected — even when we’re “logged off.” Researchers suggest that the lingering effects of scrolling curated, emotionally charged content can reduce our mental presence, especially during key developmental moments with our kids.
Why Does This Matter?
Early childhood is a critical time for brain development. Talking to young children supports their:
- Language acquisition
- Cognitive development
- Emotional regulation
- Social skills
- Executive function and attention span
When parents are mentally preoccupied, even if they aren’t holding a device, they may unintentionally miss out on these essential opportunities for meaningful interaction.
Moreover, children notice where our attention goes. When our gaze is constantly drawn toward screens, we send subtle but powerful messages about what matters — and where they rank in our attention hierarchy.
What Can Parents Do?
We understand that finding time and focus can be challenging — especially for busy families. But small changes can make a big difference:
Create “Child-First” Moments:
- Dedicate just 15–20 minutes of undivided, device-free attention to your child every day.
- These micro-moments tell your child, “You matter. I’m here with you.”
Be Mindful of Mental Presence:
- Notice when your thoughts drift to social media content, even when you’re not online.
- Gently bring your attention back to the present — your child lives in the “here and now.”
Reduce Social Media Time:
- Limit your time on platforms that pull you in emotionally.
- Try checking social media only a few times per week instead of daily.
- Reclaim those minutes for meaningful play, conversation, or shared downtime.
A Reminder for All Caregivers – Not Just Moms
Although this particular study focused on mothers, it’s just as important for fathers, grandparents, and all caregivers to reflect on their digital habits. Children learn from every adult in their lives.
At Orleans Family Health Clinic, we encourage parents to seek balance – to use technology with intention and mindfulness. Your presence – not your perfection – is what your child needs most.
If you’re struggling to manage digital distractions, stress, or parenting challenges, we’re here to help. Our physicians, counselors, and mental health partners are ready to support you and your family.
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